Why
is it that so many women become dissatisfied with the task of homemaking? The
world views homemakers as “discontent” and “unfulfilled” for a reason, but what
is it? Are some women desperate to
escape the home because they finally recognize their home and family for the
chains that they really are and therefore they desire to be free of them? This is what many people think, especially
feminists. They claim that women have been downtrodden for centuries but are now
rising up and throwing off the shackles of male domination and family
life. Women are taking their rightful
place in the work world and beginning to make their mark rather than settling
for the obscurity of the home front. Yet, what those who believe these lies do
not see is that they have it all backwards.
One
of the reasons that many women are discontent with “merely taking care of the
home” is because they have been bombarded with propaganda that tells them that
homemaking is not enough. Homemaking has been portrayed as unimportant, small,
and secondary to everything else. At
least, the smart, driven, well-educated women are seen as being wasted in the
home. Rather, they should leave that to
the women who are too stupid or not capable of doing anything else. (Heck,
isn’t that what the Nanny is for?)
Where
does this mind set come from? Something that was good and noble has been taken
and twisted almost beyond recognition.
This warped way of thinking has come out of the rise of individualism. We live in an extremely individualistic time
and are constantly told to, basically, be selfish; “look out for number one,”
“take some ‘Me’ time,” “focus on My needs and My desires,” “I need to think
about what is best for Me.” With the
rise in individualism there is a rise in selfishness and an increase in the
divorce rate. When personal pleasure,
happiness, and desires are put above the needs of others, it is no wonder that
traditional families and homemakers have come under attack.
John
Paul II once said, “To maintain a joyful family requires much from both the
parents and the children. Each member of
the family has to become, in a special way, the servant of others.” The task of a homemaker is one of service
toward others. There is the obvious
service towards others, such as washing their clothes, making the meals, and
generally working to provide all that they need to survive. But, that selflessness also is seen when she
gives her last bite of food to her little boy who asked for it; when she irons
those shirts for her husband, even though she HATES to iron; when she climbs up
to clean those gutters, not because her husband Won’t do it, but so that he
Doesn’t Have to do it. She gets up early
with the kids so that her husband can get a little more sleep. Selflessness is that fifth game of CandyLand,
even though she would really rather be reading a book during her twenty minute
break. It is also seen when she has to
leave Mass, AGAIN, in order to quiet a noisy toddler. All of these acts are selfless and yet,
people don’t usually watch the mom (or dad) walk out of church and think about
what they are sacrificing. The homemaker rarely receives accolades for these
selfless acts and some go completely unnoticed.
Homemaking
is about sacrifice and not just from the wife.
The husband sacrifices daily by going to work and providing for the
family so that his wife can stay home. The homemaker sacrifices in countless
ways, and perhaps one of those ways is ceasing to work outside of the home in
order to provide the attention and time necessary to be a full-time homemaker.
This is what the world does not understand, it is not all about me. In all things we must strive to be Christlike and putting others before oneself is one of the key ways that we can do
that. If we are not content with that,
it is because we no longer recognize and appreciate the magnitude and
importance of our task, not because there is something wrong with the task
itself.
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