When I was a senior in high school I had a
conversation with a lovely, Christian, sophomore girl about what she wanted to
be when she grew up. And this young lady said "I want to get married
and have kids, but first I want to do something important. I want to help the
world in some way." Even at the age of eighteen I was completely
shocked by this remark. Since when have we separated "helping the
world" and "doing something important" from being a wife and
mother? There is no job more meaningful, important, or life-changing than
the job of homemaking, but the world does not understand this.
One important task of the homemaker is
that she is creating and fostering a certain type of culture within the
home--by culture I mean beliefs, customs, practices (traditions) and social
behaviors. Culture forms us. We need these things in order to have deep and
meaningful interaction with others. The type of environment that her
children will be raised in and her husband surrounded by, is determined and built
by the homemaker. She teaches her children habits and traditions; she
establishes within them a sense of right and wrong. As a mother I shape
my children's moral compass and I determine how they view the world. From
my interaction with my husband my daughters learn how to treat men and my sons
learn, hopefully, how a wife should treat a husband. Our children hear how we
talk to our own mothers and follow our example. We teach them eating
habits, manners, modesty, social skills, and so much more. By the way that we
keep our house we show them what a home should look and feel like. A child
watches a mom clean the bathroom (a task that he knows that he hates to do) and
he sees her do it well and with a smile on her face. Through her
homemaking she has taught him how to do tasks, even when you do not want to,
how to work hard, and how to do so with good grace. Our orderliness and
cleanliness teaches those around us how to live orderly lives. When there is
security and comfort within the home, the children raised in this environment
will be more secure in their personal lives.
Our comfortable home brings peace and joy to others. Our hospitality and
kindness makes others feel special. Our attentions are not divided between home
and work. Unlike men, who are very good at compartmentalizing, women have
a really hard time keeping different areas of their lives separate. If
something at work was stressing us, that stress will carry over into our home
and affect our family. We are less patient with everyone and less attentive to
others when outside worries and cares are weighing down upon us. This task of
homemaking is a full-time job and it requires all of our time and
attention. This is not a small thing that we can only give half of our
mind to. We have been entrusted with the care of immortal souls and this
is not something that should be taken lightly.
The woman is at the
heart of the home. Let us pray that we women realize the reason for our
existence: to love and be loved and through this love become instruments of
peace in the world.
~Mother Theresa