This past Sunday our
priest gave a wonderful homily. He said
that if we pursue joy and peace, we will not find them. We must first pursue a properly ordered life,
pursue order, and peace and joy will then follow. Currently, we do not live as we were designed
to live. We do not live well ordered
lives. God tells us what a properly
ordered life should look like in the ten commandments, and if we do not follow
them we cannot have peace and joy. (Note: the order of the ten commandments is
such that the first three = how to properly love and worship God, the last seven
= how to properly love your neighbor.) Even Christ on the cross had peace and
joy because He was following the Father’s will.
I was then thinking
about this is connection with homemaking (of course) and life in general. It is not a matter of opinion, but a fact,
that we need to live well ordered lives.
We live in a time where everything is fast paced; we have tons to do and
there are lots of demands upon us; and we are constantly surrounded by
distractions telling us “not to do” what we need to do. Personally, on the days where I am ordered
and efficient—when I clean the house, am
kind to my family, exercise, say my prayers, and don’t waste a lot of time—I am
a much happier person. (Amazingly
enough, those also tend to be the days where I able to relax in the evenings as
well.) On the flip side, the days where
I am not ordered—when I don’t say my prayers, don’t exercise, the house is a disaster
and I can’t manage to get anything done—these are the days where I get
impatient and irritable, and stressed.
On these days I am also very unhappy as I get mad at myself because I
know that things are not as they should be.
One thing that I am not
saying is that to live a well ordered life, a person has to have a clean house
in order to be happy. Yes, in my family,
that is the case. If the house is messy
we all get cranky, we have a hard time making ourselves do what we need to do,
we are less hospitable, etc. However,
for some people, an untidy home may not bother them in the slightest and it
does not affect how they love and worship God or love others. A clean house is not a matter of truth. But, if as the homemaker the state of my home
does negatively affect a member of my family, then I need to address that and
examine why things are in the state they are in. Is it because I was too busy watching that
television show to put away the laundry and vacuum the floors? Or is it because
I was making paper snowflakes with my children and baking cookies for my
neighbors? Is cleaning your home and
taking care of your family one of the Ten Commandments? No, but loving God is,
and how can we truly love God if we do not properly care for what He has given
into our keeping?
1. I, the Lord, am your
God. You shall not have other gods besides me.
2. You shall not take the
name of the Lord God in vain
3. Remember to keep holy
the Lord's Day
4. Honor your father and
your mother
5. You shall not kill
6. You shall not commit
adultery
7. You shall not steal
8. You shall not bear
false witness
9. You shall not covet
your neighbor's wife
10. You shall not covet your neighbor's goods